Tag: trauma
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Boundaries, Intuition and a ritual for Protection
The ability to set clear boundaries, to have boundaries, rightly holds an important place in moving towards a greater sense of wellness and emotional safety in relationships. Somewhat less popular a topic but also important, is the ability to respect the boundaries of others. I have seen many a helpful adage about how to set…
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Reclaiming self-worth, integrating your inner child(ren)
Trigger warning: discussion of abuse culture, and brief reference to the documentary Allan vs Farrow Culturally we are reckoning with abuse culture in a way that has never been so sustained and is moving across demographics that were not previously engaged with anti-violence activism. The push for accountability is needed and long overdue, and yet…
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Healing Perfectionism
Perfectionism is often viewed as a form of anxiety. Some make connections to procrastination (if I can’t do it perfectly I shouldn’t even bother), missing deadlines (I can’t turn this in until I’m sure that it’s just right), difficulty apologizing and being accountable (I must convince you I didn’t actually make a mistake), and restrictive behaviors…
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A case for Anger
It’s a commonly applied concept in both psychological theory and popular culture that anger is a “secondary emotion” and one that can be destructive for both the person experiencing the feeling and whomever it is directed towards. The ask is usually to “get underneath” the anger. I have always believed that experiencing anger was an…
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Ambiguous Loss and Collective Grief
This piece was originally written in three separate newsletters between 3/28/20 and 4/21/2020. I considered editing it to make it a bit more evergreen, but I feel it is am important record of a difficult and important time. Spring of 2020, particularly in my home at the time of Brooklyn, NY was a huge pivot…
Inward Vision 